Results 1 to 6 of 6

Thread: For Brothers Only Seriously: Stop, Look, and Listen

  1. #1
    Member Array
    Join Date
    Nov 2008
    Location
    India
    Posts
    628
    Rep Power
    0

    For Brothers Only Seriously: Stop, Look, and Listen

    By Abdul-Qadir Kazeem

    You are having a wonderful day. The sun is out, there is a nice breeze, and you are reading your favorite book on the porch. Nothing could possible ruin this moment.

    BUUZZZZZ!!!!!

    Right in your ear. A fly. Now you have to waste 5 minutes in battle with it as it tries to land in your ear over and over. You know what is interesting about this situation? The fly could have been sitting next to you for several hours, and you did not notice it until it came and buzzed in your ear. Now is when the presence of the fly matters.

    You know what else is interesting about this situation? This is how many brothers treat their wives. They only notice them when they are trying to ‘bother’ them. This could possibly bring up feelings of resentment in your wife, the fact that the only time you seem to be interested in her is when you need something from her, or when she bugs you. This is actually one of the three A’s that women need: attention. Women need attention to feel that they matter to you. As a matter of fact, everyone needs this, to feel that they matter to someone. It was said that one of the greatest gifts you can give a loved one is effective listening. One of the things that lets someone know you are listening attentively is when you actually stop, look, and listen:

    STOP:

    Stop whatever you are doing. Block out everything else. What the speaker has to say is all that matters at the moment.

    LOOK:

    Make eye contact with the person to let them know you are paying attention.

    LISTEN:

    Let them know you are listening by head nods, verbal queues (yeah, uh huh), etc.

    This is especially true when you are in an argument with your wife. If you both insist on talking and not listening, this is a collective monologue. You are either speaking or preparing to speak, which will get you nowhere. Make it a point to sincerely listen your wife’s point of view, and repeat back some of what was said to show that you understand. This will save you time and prevent putting more strain on the relationship (She never listens to me!!! She never tries to see things my way!!!). Even if you do not get your way when there is a clash, you are more likely to be content with the result if you felt the other person listened and understood your point of view.

    So, my dear brothers, the next time you come home from work (I know I know, you had a hard day and you are tired), and your wife comes up to you with a big smile and starts to tell you about her wonderful day, what should you do? Stop. Look. Listen.


     



  2. #2
    Member Array Candid's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2008
    Location
    India
    Posts
    3,805
    Rep Power
    0
    JazakAllah

  3. #3
    Senior Member Array sunnyajmal's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2008
    Location
    Hearts
    Posts
    28,915
    Country: Afghanistan
    Rep Power
    0
    nice post buddy.......thnx for sharing

  4. #4
    Member Array
    Join Date
    Dec 2009
    Location
    Mama'z Heart
    Posts
    4,685
    Rep Power
    0
    lolz ok after marraige InshaALLAH :d

    t4s

  5. #5
    Member Array
    Join Date
    Nov 2008
    Location
    India
    Posts
    628
    Rep Power
    0
    JazakAllah Khair for the replies....

    Well its like a precautionary measure for most of us @Klassic

  6. #6
    Junior Member Array
    Join Date
    Mar 2010
    Posts
    38
    Rep Power
    0
    do u know something? the best way would be to just b silent than reply to their words.....

    for ex consider that u r in a situation tat ur wife is saying something....and u keep quite, then she will also be quite....otherwise it will surely lead to problems....i meant ur mental probs and not theirs....

    it is not a rude way....but a way to stop fights and confusions......

    i know a friend where his wife bcums sexy when he looks into her eyes....lolz....dis technique is not suportive for all situations......

    so many funny situations....not getting situations and words at rite time...i'll post more when time comes in....

Thread Information

Users Browsing this Thread

There are currently 1 users browsing this thread. (0 members and 1 guests)







Similar Threads

  1. Listen to any PDF..VERY VERY USEFUL
    By darani in forum Computers and Laptops
    Replies: 4
    Last Post: 07-29-2017, 10:52 AM
  2. Listen...
    By themistery in forum Inspirations
    Replies: 6
    Last Post: 11-29-2010, 12:45 PM
  3. Please Listen
    By sveetzara in forum Inspirations
    Replies: 6
    Last Post: 08-28-2008, 10:45 AM
  4. Listen
    By ash2032 in forum Inspirations
    Replies: 5
    Last Post: 11-10-2007, 03:33 PM
  5. Men NEVER listen ?
    By shalin_99 in forum Jokes
    Replies: 2
    Last Post: 11-06-2007, 11:26 PM

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •  



Get Daily Forum Updates

Get Most Amazing E-mails Daily
Full of amazing emails daily in your inbox
Join Nidokidos E-mail Magazine
Join Nidokidos Official Page on Facebook


Like us on Facebook | Get Website Updates | Get our E-Magazine