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    The 90/10 Principle - Stephen Covey's

    Good One….

    The 90/10 Principle

    Author: Stephen Covey (Management Guru)

    Have you read this before? Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations). What is this principle?

    10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react. What does this mean?

    We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.

    How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light, but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.

    Let's use an example.

    You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just what happened. What happens when the next will be determined by how you react.You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over.

    She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work.

    You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing Rs. 200/- traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.

    Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?

    A) Did the coffee cause it?

    B) Did your daughter cause it?

    C) Did the policeman cause it?

    D) Did you cause it?

    The answer is "D".

    You had no control over what happened with the coffee.

    How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and should have happened.

    Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "It's ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.

    Notice the difference?

    Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.

    Why? Because of how you REACTED.

    You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.

    Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.

    If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.

    How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off)

    Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive?

    Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.

    You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger.


    Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse. Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it.

    The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.

    The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache.

    We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.

    It CAN change your life!!!

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    kool.....good posting lina....hats off to u for posting such a topic......ya we all react the first way some act at higher pitch some at low but we all do.....

    same time its hard to bring a change(practise 90/10) not impossible to use 90/10...well i guess easier said than done coz same time it is not so easy to apply 90/10...

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    Thanx a lot 4 ur rply sunny & i do agree with u. U r right dat, its difficult to use in our daily life, but i think this kind of aricles or mails gives us a positive energy & we try to change ourselves (our behaviour, our attitude,our thinking etc.) I will try to give u some good posting & may be it will help u to become good human being, so pls do read my posting,

    Again thanx sunny 4 ur rply & ur cool mails.

    Lina K

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    ya u r rght lina these articles do provide positive energy.....u r already doing a gr8 job by providing such postings...
    and thanks for the kool e-mails......i do read as many postings i can...and i also leave a reply behind

    I will try to give u some good postings & may be it will help u to become good human being, so pls do read my posting,
    u think i am not a gud person yet
    well i must become a gud person well never got a comment like that .....anyways thanks for pointing that out.....i'll try to improve...

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    hi lina ,,,, ur post is very good, .... i appreciate it ,

    a bit hard to practise but can be done ...90/10

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    Hey sunny, let me tell u dat u r a very sweet person, very nice person. No need to improve & if u will improve u will become more sweet,sweeter,sweetest.

    Thanx a lot kokane 4 ur rply.

    Lina K

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    i had just these similies to express what i nice of u a nice person can only praise others...i'll tell u a secret i am not soooo sweet and gud person as u have told in the post...i am just an average lad from india....

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    thanks for reply lina

    hope u r also a sweet girl , may be we can chat sometime and get more familiar

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