We humans always want the approval of the
person who doesn't want to give it to us.
Instead of just walking away and saying, "your
loss," we often chase after them, begging and
pleading for their approval... and thinking that
we must have done something wrong.
Remember, some people actually ENJOY making
other people feel bad. Some women actually ENJOY
rejecting men. It gives them a feeling of power
There are MANY women who will spend all week
shopping, two hours putting on their clothing and
makeup (and doing their hair), just to go out and
get attention from men... so they can reject those
men, and complain to their friends about what
"losers" and "pigs" men are, and how they hate it
when men look at them like a "piece of meat."
Let me give you a little "tough love."
Part of growing up, becoming a REAL MAN, and
getting this area of your life handled is
realizing that not all women are nice people, and
not letting those that aren't nice AFFECT YOU.
You can reach a point in your life where your
attitude should become "I do not give anyone
permission to take my joy, happiness, and good
mood away from me."
When you get to this point, then IT DOESN'T
MATTER if a woman doesn't respond positively to
It doesn't matter if she rejects you.
It doesn't matter if she doesn't have a sense
None of this matters when you don't give anyone
permission to TAKE YOUR JOY AWAY FROM YOU.
My advice: Learn to walk away. Learn to blow it
off. Learn how to IMMEDIATELY disconnect and
detach from these types of situations, and NOT let
them affect you.
You need to learn the skill of keeping your
power and joy for yourself, and NEVER giving it to
someone you don't even know.
Make a decision right now that your joy is your
own, and that you'll never allow another person to
take it away from you.
What I LOVE is how you say making it look like as
if a woman is picking YOU up. It sure takes the
pressure off of the situation. It's all in the
mind set. You are not nervous because you know she
wants you and is trying to get you...not the other
way around. Then you act accordingly. Here's just
a few of the lines I use:
know we had fun, but
please don't become a stalker and call me 50 times
a day or else I'll have the cops pay you a visit
with a restraining order in hand!"
Her: "My hair looks bad doesn't it?" (or any other
line where she makes fun of herself)
Me: "You can say that again!" (with a playful