In the pursuit of the life we dream

In the pursuit of the life we dream of, this journey we are on for successful living, the
focus is usually on figuring out what it is exactly that we want and then setting
ourselves on course for going and getting it. This is very important: Know what you
want to get for your life and then pursue it.

But there is another aspect of achieving the life you dream of that seems on the
surface to actually be counter-productive to getting the life you want, yet is
imperative to the successful life. It is giving.

Giving - of yourself, your time, your money, your energy - is something that takes us
from simply being successful people in the traditional sense of the term, to being
people who lead successful lives.

Giving is what makes us fully human. It is the essence of what we are, people who are
here on earth together, not simply people who hope to clamor to the top of the pile in
the survival of the fittest. Yes, pursue your life and your success with wild abandon;
be responsible for yourself and take ownership of your life, realizing that you cannot
be responsible for others, but also allow yourself to become a giving person.
Giving is also what allows us to accomplish things far beyond ourselves; and that is
part of what living the life of our dreams is all about, right? Accomplishing great
things through ourselves - and others!

How do we do that? Here are some ideas:
Make your giving purposeful. Give to people and organizations that fulfill purposes
that you believe in. This way, they feel good, you feel good, and the work you believe
in gets done. Giving purposefully will give you the ability to know that your giving is
doing something great.

Make your giving proactive.

Take control of your giving. When we control our giving
it becomes proactive rather than reactive. We know that we are doing what we want
to do rather than what others may manipulate us to do. We can avoid a lot of the
wondering about validity that comes when we give out of reaction. Giving proactively
will give you a lot of peace of mind.

Make your giving methodical.

Every month my wife and I write out our charity checks
before any other checks. We do that on purpose to keep our hearts in the right place.
Every month, month in and month out, year after year, we go about our giving. Our
goal is to give away $1,000,000 by the end of our lives (and we may have to even
readjust that goal as time goes by since we set it when we were only 24 years old and
we are well on our way to that goal.) This isn't done by giving big chunks from time to
time. It is accomplished by checks each and every month, methodically. Giving
methodically allows you to build up larger gifts over time.

Make your giving generous.

Don't be a tightwad! Loosen up the purse strings a bit.
Think of your giving in regard to how you can be generous, not how you can cover
your charitable bases. I have found that it isn't the extra money given to charity that
breaks people. It is usually mismanagement. And at the end of your life you will most
likely not know the difference financially, though you will in your heart. Making your
giving generous allows you to give even greater amounts over time.

Make your giving increasing.

Don't just give the same amount from year to year -
increase your giving. I think there are two good times to readjust your giving: The
first of the year and any time your income goes up. Bump your giving up then, if you
can. This will keep you on pace with your giving goals and you will notice the
increase less from your bottom line. Make your giving increasing and your giving will
keep pace with your income.

Make your giving from the heart.

Don't just let your giving be a mind issue. Let it be a
heart issue. This is what gives us our humanity. What causes make your eyes tear up?
What causes really mean something to your heart when you are honest with yourself?
Start giving to these causes! Let your checkbook be a reflection of your heart! Make
your giving from the heart and you will allow your heart to grow.
(Sometimes) Make your giving spontaneous. Sometimes... Allow yourself to be
spontaneous with your giving. Do allow yourself to react sometimes. Will you get
taken advantage of? Yes, sometimes. But you will also be doing something within
yourself that will keep you from becoming cynical. Sometimes, as life has been good
to you and you find yourself blessed, let yourself be the blessing to someone else.
Make your giving spontaneous (sometimes) and you will battle the disease of
cynicism about charity that can creep in.


These are just a few ideas that you can implement right now to begin the art of giving
in your life. The key is to decide that you will become a giver, and not merely a taker.
You will choose to leave something behind in this world and not merely try to get
something out of it.

And as we all commit to that, our world will be a better place and we can all live the
lives that we dream of.

About The Author:
Chris Widener is a popular speaker and writer as well as the President of Made for
Success, a company helping individuals and organizations turn their potential into
performance, succeed in every area of their lives and achieve their dreams