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    Get Rid of Low SelfEsteem

    There are times that we all feel bad about ourselves, but those phases usually don't last.

    We value ourselves as being unique persons, each with our own unique abilities.

    We are not perfect, but we accept ourselves for who we are.

    Some people don't take the same healthy and optimistic disposition towards life.

    They're always pessimistic, view themselves in a negative light, and think they can't do anything right.

    People who suffer from low self-esteem don't do themselves and the people around them much good.

    Low self-esteem and a lack of self-worth is often contagious.


     


    If a person feels bad about himself or herself, other people tend to feel the same way about themselves.

    Low self-esteem can also prevent a person from living a full and happy life.

    If you suffer from low self-esteem, here are some ways to boost your sense of self-confidence and self-worth.



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    “I Like Me.”

    A person with low self-esteem often has a feeling of self-loathing and directs his or her hatred towards himself or herself.

    People with low self-esteem feel insecure about many things, like:

    * Appearance: All people have physical imperfections, but some people get depressed by even the least noticeable blemishes or moles. People who feel insecure about their appearance are jealous of other people, and resent themselves for being “ugly” or “imperfect.”

    * Handicaps: Some handicapped people have low self-esteem because they feel that they are not “normal.” Some may even feel that they don't have the same opportunities and capabilities as “normal people” do.

    * Financial situations: Low self-esteem can also be caused by one's social standing. Some people may feel insecure about how much money other people are able to spend, save, or invest. They may think that they are “worthless” because they don't have the kind of financial success and security enjoyed by others.

    Accept and like yourself just the way you are, despite your imperfections or your own insecurities.

    Another important thing to remember is that no matter how bad or insecure you feel about yourself, there's always someone out there who's far worse off than you are.

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    “I'm a Good Person.”

    Some people who lack confidence may have gone through painful or even traumatizing experiences.

    An accident, the death of a loved one, or past mistakes can often cause a person to have a diminished sense of self-worth.

    Sometimes you cannot avoid feeling bad for yourself, but that doesn't mean you should beat yourself up for the rest of your life.

    Learn to forgive yourself for past mistakes to help restore your sense of self-worth.

    You should also accept the fact that there are a lot of things in life that just happen as they are, and there's no use blaming yourself for anything you didn't cause.

    Think of yourself as a good person deep inside, and that there are a lot of things you should congratulate yourself for.

    Don't dwell on the past.

    Whenever you feel bad about yourself, think of the many things that make you a good person.

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    “I am Lovable and Capable.”

    Self-esteem is often defined by a person's relationships with others.

    A healthy, happy and fulfilled relationship with someone you love reinforces your own self-image and self-concept.


    Rejection – whether by friends, family, or a romantic prospect – can sometimes make you feel worthless.

    It's painful to be rejected, especially if you know that you've given your best and your all to love another person.

    While it's all right to reflect and to feel bad about rejection, you don't need to dwell on it for too long.

    Always remind yourself that you are capable of love and acceptance, and other people are capable of loving and accepting you for who you are.

    You may feel that your efforts are inadequate, but console yourself knowing that you can't please people all the time.

    Many people out there will accept and love you for who you are.

    Before other people can love you, you have to learn to love and accept yourself first.

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    very helpful...

    by the way what is your profession?? Vels

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    “I Can Do This.”

    Lack of self-confidence is caused by many different factors, including:

    * Failure: Everyone wants to succeed in their careers or with their life's goals. Some people are natural achievers, and succeed in every goal or dream they have in life. Most of the time, people run into a few bumps along the way when they follow their dreams or set their minds to a goal. Setbacks are normal and even necessary, but some people dwell on them and think that they're natural born failures.

    * Challenges: Life is not without its trials. While most people can cope with the challenges of life or realizing goals, some people tend to feel that they cannot surpass a serious setback or a challenge. It makes them feel very incompetent and insecure, and sometimes results to feelings of self-loathing and self-hatred.

    * Fear: Failure and challenges help strengthen character, independence, and integrity. People with low self-esteem are often afraid of new challenges and experiences. They prefer to stay in their comfort zone instead of learning new ideas and having fresh challenges.

    Whenever you're faced with a new task or challenge, tell yourself that you can do it.

    Don't focus on failure, because you may end up actually failing.

    While you should anticipate the worst, you should always expect the best results when you put your best foot forward.

    The best way to boost your self-confidence is to exert your best effort in whatever you do.

    While there's a possibility that you'll end up failing, focus on the motivations to succeed.

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    “I'm Not the Only Person With a Problem.”

    Sometimes you may think that your life's a soap opera, and you're the oppressed hero who never seems to get a break from all sorts of troubles and challenges.

    You need to give yourself a reality check.

    Many others have problems worse than yours.

    The world doesn't revolve around you, and it would be so immature and childish of you to think that everyone feels your pain.


    Here are a few things to remember before you wallow in self-pity:

    People have other things to attend to.

    Even the people closest to you have their own lives, and have important things to deal with.

    To say that they should always be there at the time of your need is just selfish.

    Only you can help yourself with your problem.

    There are times that you need help to deal with your own problems.

    Most of the time, the only person preventing you from solving your own problems is yourself.


    Your problems cannot be solved by self-pity.

    Self-pity is a reaction to a problem, not the solution to a problem.


    A lack of self-esteem is itself a problem.

    Negative feelings only complicates your situation, and you'll end up much worse than where you started.

    Your lack of self-confidence comes when you think that you're the only one with problems.


    The more you dwell in the past and think that you're at the brunt of all the challenges of life, the more you'll feel bad about yourself.

    Put your life's problems into perspective --- a lot of people deserve your empathy, sympathy, and help more than you need it for yourself.


    You'll realize that your own problems may not be serious enough for you to feel miserable for the rest of your life.

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    nice share..
    i totally agree...

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    “I Feel Proud of Myself.”

    Some people develop a low sense of self-esteem because they're driven perfectionists.

    You may have already reached a goal or finished a task, but you would rather dwell on the setbacks and failures along the way than the good results.

    Even the most successful people sometimes harbor low self-esteem because they can only be satisfied by perfect results every time.

    There will be times that you'd rather have things turn out the way you want them to, or that you're not satisfied with the results of a task.

    Take those failures and shortcomings as lessons you can apply in the future.

    Every time you reach a goal, congratulate yourself on a job well done.

    Take down mental notes of where you failed or stumbled when doing your tasks, and learn from them in the future.

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    “I Am Who I Am.”

    Whenever you feel insecure about yourself, or whenever you feel your self-confidence is sagging, always remind yourself that you're one in six billion people in the world.

    You have your own special talents, skills, traits, and characteristics that make you unique, lovable, capable, and likable.

    The fact that you are unique should be enough reason for you to like yourself, and boost your confidence in yourself.

    There are times when you will fail, but you should not allow your life to be dictated by a single failure torn imperfection.

    You are who you are, whether you succeed or fail.

    Accepting yourself for everything that you are is the best way for others to feel and do the same for you.

    Remember that self-respect commands respect, admiration, and love from other people.


    It's normal to feel angry at yourself for a serious mistake or a missed opportunity, and it's OK to pity yourself at times if you really feel helpless about your situation.

    Dwelling on your own insecurities does not do you any good, and it certainly makes other people feel bad about themselves.

    They may also view you in a negative light, which only makes your problems worse than before.

    Revel in your uniqueness, take some credit for your achievements, and realize that even with these problems, you're a one-of-a-kind person.

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