All too often. It's hard to distinguish these two drives. We choose love for the wrong reason.... as the solution to our fear of being alone. And all too often we choose being alone for the wrong reason.... as the solution to our fear of love. In truth we should be making all our choices based on love. When you live life directed by fear, you keep yourself small and limit possibilities. When you live life based on going towards love, you grow yourself and your life in beautiful ways.