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sweety4u
09-25-2007, 03:10 PM
MAKE THIS DISCUSSION AS A POLL ................SO PLZ DO VOTE

hey guyz here it is u have to tell and comment wht u prefer

love or arrange marriage

well i prefer arrange marriage i think it last long

love marriage se marriage ke baad love khatum ho jata hai
aur arrange marriage se marriage ke baad love shoro hota hai.(don't fight with me guys :smt002 )

shalin_99
09-25-2007, 03:23 PM
Love mrriage is better than arranged
coz i think that n arranged both the persons have never met each other and suddenly they have to marry
in love this problem is not there...

sweet_pinky
09-25-2007, 09:41 PM
in my openion arrange is better than love
qk agay ager koi problem hojaye tu ap ger walo ko sara ilzam de saktay ho or ap totaly bari uz zimma :smt003

shalin_99
09-25-2007, 09:55 PM
everyone has his/her own views...

coolestnapster
09-26-2007, 03:24 AM
well u r right sweety love marriage don't last long....but arrange marriages r not good enough...so i perfer....neither of them...but if if.......if true love comes ur way then u r the biggest fool is u don't marry that person...lolz

sweety4u
09-26-2007, 09:45 AM
ok devil coolllllllllllll :smt004
i'm agreed with ur comment :smt001

lalliv
09-26-2007, 09:57 AM
hey napster your back,kinda missed you a lot. hope you find your true love before your 60yrs otherwise its pretty lonely out there. both love and arrange only survive if you put in your heart to make things work.

ash2032
09-26-2007, 10:32 AM
lalliv ur right and for me i dont know yet

coolestnapster
09-26-2007, 11:41 AM
thanks lalliv but i will manage if i don't find ..then also...

Vidya Palani
10-10-2007, 12:28 PM
well i wuld go for a love marriage arranged by my parents

unseenforce
10-10-2007, 12:33 PM
love marriage
coz marriage is a confirmation of love
how can u marry a person without lovin
its nt marriage then
its sumthin else may be a compromise

Lina
10-10-2007, 01:14 PM
yup gaurav is right.............well i will go for love cum arrange.........my parents trust me so they will never say no to my choice..............& the importnant thing is trust & understanding in any relation..............if u have both then u can carry healthy & long relationshp...........dats what i feel...............but for me love marriage is better than arrange..........

unseenforce
10-10-2007, 01:17 PM
oye hoye lina
kya baat hai !!

Lina
10-10-2007, 01:24 PM
hmmmm yehi baat hai yaar.............cheers

coolestnapster
10-13-2007, 01:18 AM
hmm well for me its better to be loved the to love...coz its nicer that way guys..... :smt005 :smt005

shalin_99
10-13-2007, 06:48 PM
many here agree with love......
gud

coolestnapster
10-14-2007, 07:39 AM
true love happens and takes u above up in the sky

shalin_99
10-14-2007, 07:40 AM
I think tht sweety shuld start a poll under this topic...

coolestnapster
10-14-2007, 07:54 AM
well but where is she

shalin_99
10-14-2007, 07:54 AM
she came online today jut for some seconds and gone again

coolestnapster
10-14-2007, 08:04 AM
so sad never met here

shalin_99
10-14-2007, 11:11 AM
i have also not met her
she just posted a reply in 1 of the games and Gayab

coolestnapster
10-14-2007, 12:11 PM
well...i think she might be busy

shalin_99
10-14-2007, 02:08 PM
yes..may b

saagar
10-14-2007, 03:15 PM
well dont actually call it love marraige...
its marriage at ur own choice, marriage with a person u can bear whole lyf time...

i wont go for any ;)
friendship, love, breakup !!
the cycle goes on...

shalin_99
10-15-2007, 06:21 PM
gud thought saagar

sweety4u
10-15-2007, 07:09 PM
don't be sad guys i'm here only
ha ha ha
saagar, nice reply


but i don't know how its makes as a poll

lalliv
10-15-2007, 09:37 PM
looks like a search party is going out for you hehehehe. as for love or arranged it depends eventually on adjusting to ech other.its a game of give and take

coolestnapster
10-15-2007, 11:31 PM
well for me


Dont marry a person u can live with......

marry someone you cant live without.....

shalin_99
10-16-2007, 09:13 AM
sweety make a poll...

coolestnapster
10-16-2007, 03:43 PM
love is like a bush but frndship and love is like a garden

shalin_99
10-16-2007, 05:44 PM
cool thoughts nap..........

coolestnapster
10-16-2007, 11:59 PM
We cannot beg someone to stay if they want to leave and be with someone else. We have to admit that love doesn't give us the license to own a person. This is what love means...sacrifice.

Love is like a bus, if you miss it, don't worry, you'll catch another one

It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.

ash2032
10-22-2007, 01:50 PM
Love is like a bus, if you miss it, don't worry, you'll catch another one
even if its true u should be careful not to miss another bus or love coz u never know when the next will come or even it will come or not

coolestnapster
10-22-2007, 07:44 PM
ya ashu is right :smt002

unseenforce
10-23-2007, 05:40 PM
u want to know wat love is go ask ma gf
u wanna know wat frndship is ask ur self

shalin_99
10-23-2007, 09:51 PM
I still prefer Love.. :)

darani
11-12-2007, 07:48 AM
i don't have any plans of marriage now guys....
so no idea...all i know now is studies..........

but in my xperience...luv is a feeling which will b nice and give some pains...

if it is successful it'll b nice or it'll b bad...

coolestnapster
11-12-2007, 08:16 AM
well hmm i believe if u can't find ur love don;t waste ur time marry ur friend who is the greatest

darani
11-12-2007, 12:57 PM
i have to read first...

only tat is flowing in my thoughts now........

ash2032
11-12-2007, 01:40 PM
i think why the hell u have to marry is it that necessary listen to me guys dont marry rather than live single & devote urself to god..........................

darani
11-12-2007, 04:45 PM
not yet decided.....

ishita kumar
11-12-2007, 07:16 PM
oh plz...m not gonna marry...so dere is nothing abt love or arrange....

darani
11-13-2007, 05:22 AM
ha ha ha...
so u'll b a happy person frnd............

hey but many people who said like this only r getting married xtremely faaster...

in last 2 months many of our classmate's sisters were married...
b4 few months only they were saying i don't want to marry...

so i think u'll get married very soon..............

congrats....

:smt005 :smt005 :smt005 :smt005 :smt005 :smt005 :smt005 :smt005

have a happy married life...

:smt005 :smt005 :smt005 :smt005 :smt005 :smt005 :smt005

coolestnapster
11-13-2007, 09:14 AM
marry if u can commit ...else don't

ash2032
11-13-2007, 10:00 AM
& commit only if u can marry..................else don't

darani
11-13-2007, 12:24 PM
i don't believe in marriages...

coolestnapster
11-13-2007, 03:41 PM
darani on believes in flirting lolz :smt005 :smt005

hmmm and commitment come only when u can trust not other wise...ashu

ash2032
11-13-2007, 03:56 PM
hmmm then trust then commit & then marry

coolestnapster
11-13-2007, 04:02 PM
u r right :smt002

ash2032
11-13-2007, 04:06 PM
i m always right :)

coolestnapster
11-13-2007, 04:14 PM
yes u r....aunty lolz :smt005 :smt005

ash2032
11-13-2007, 05:02 PM
aunty mat kaho na......................lolz uncle

kapil_7k
11-13-2007, 06:13 PM
Love marriage is better when you love someone buty arrange marriage is better when u dont love someone but trying to search for sombody who loves you.





bye the way ????????????

sweetshalu143
11-13-2007, 06:21 PM
i prefer arrange marriages........

coz they r selected by our parents n they last long.......

coolestnapster
11-14-2007, 08:12 AM
sweetshalu143 Posted: November 13 2007 Post subject:

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i prefer arrange marriages........

coz they r selected by our parents n they last long.......
i disagree
coz u have to spent rest of ur life with a person u hardly know and in arrange marriages everyone behaves nicely....so that the can impress the other one....after one year they show who they really are..lolz

ash2032
11-14-2007, 11:51 AM
hmmmm marry someone who loves you

darani
11-15-2007, 01:09 PM
have no plans abt it....

h777
11-15-2007, 07:57 PM
don noe don care :smt067

darani
11-16-2007, 07:28 AM
i think we both r in d same category...

sweety4u
11-24-2007, 01:32 AM
sweetshalu143 Posted: November 13 2007 Post subject:

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i prefer arrange marriages........

coz they r selected by our parents n they last long.......
i disagree
coz u have to spent rest of ur life with a person u hardly know and in arrange marriages everyone behaves nicely....so that the can impress the other one....after one year they show who they really are..lolz

so truth sunny :smt006

coolestnapster
11-25-2007, 08:39 AM
still love coz arrange marriage starts with compromise ....like say yes coz ur parents do emotional black mailing...say yes coz u have to get married say yes coz parents have given there word .....so it foes on

ash2032
11-25-2007, 03:36 PM
hmmm even in love marriage becarefull that it wont go in a Sathiya movie way............i hope u people understand what i m saying if not then watch Sathiya movie

aseefbd
11-25-2007, 04:25 PM
i think now a days love is one kind of infatuation. so marriage by love will create a problem after marriage. because infatuation is not persistent at all.


so it's better to lover after marriage rather than before marriage.

coolestnapster
11-26-2007, 05:48 AM
again love...coz......arrange u don't know what thing u might be getting.... :smt005 :smt005

Shadenights
01-17-2008, 05:04 PM
arrange ,,,,,,,,,,, bcoz it is good that don't know what thing u might be getting....

shainee
01-18-2008, 05:15 AM
Love!!! Love marriage is made in heaven

arranged marriage is made by parents or sickening relatives

my vote goees to love marriage

god!! I'm in love!!

coolestnapster
02-10-2008, 08:47 AM
hmm love...coz its better to know the devil u r going to be with rather then the devil u never know :smt005

ash2032
02-12-2008, 09:48 AM
hmmm love or arrange its like asking which death u want...........death of ur wish or someoneelses wish .....................so its better be love marriage

coolestnapster
02-13-2008, 08:38 AM
hmm better to try a know product then to try a new one....atleast side effects known :smt005

aanku_s
03-12-2008, 11:54 PM
hmmm i agree with ash n napster
in love marriage atleast we know the person whom we r going to marry..........whereas in arrange marriage we dont even no who wud be tied with us

in love marriage we know almost evrything bout the person we r going to marry
in arrange marriage the person is stranger to u
even u dont know his likes, interest, nature... nothing


so i think love marriage.........shud be more preferable

coolestnapster
03-13-2008, 09:31 AM
nice to see i have few votes....

but frnds i would like to add love marriages can also go wrong but atleast u know its ur fault u r suffering for not because of others

aanku_s
03-13-2008, 11:17 AM
hmmmmmmm napster rite but it only go wrong when the two persons start compalining n comparing thr life after marriage n b4 marriage

coolestnapster
03-13-2008, 01:09 PM
hmmm i agree with u only 50% dear


as i also goes wrong when u don't try to let go of ur ego and do not adjust .....i mean u already know what that person is like then also u want him/her to change after marriage ....that leads to problems

aanku_s
03-13-2008, 01:35 PM
EGO............................its only reason for the break up of a relation no matter how old it is

sejal_1912
03-13-2008, 02:36 PM
frnz...........frnz.............frnz.........

My vote is for Arranged marriage.

i m a married girl and my marriage is arranged by our parents.

But i feel very happy and lucky for having such a good husband and family. As i m a working woman, i have to deal with household activities as well as my projects and clients. But my husband is helping me too much to cop up with my busy schedule. ohhhhhhh i m explaining my routin life to u. It seems boring to u people.
anyways.......

And baat jab tak ek-dusre ko janne ki hai, then we also get enough time to know eachother after getting angaged. isn't it?
i feel arranged marriages are long lasting coz we do have enough excuses to say that "ooops this is for the first time, as I dont know that u dont like this color/food/tv channel/shirt/dress etc. hehehe.........

anyways, everyone has his/her own opinion.

bye...........
enjoy..........
and ya take care.

aanku_s
03-13-2008, 03:36 PM
but i wud still stick to love marriage
thr r exceptions everywhere sejal
and bout the excuses once u can say that its the first time but what bout afterwards. the two persons in love understand each other. they know each other more closely they wud never try to harm each other. they r possessive bout their beloved.
u no after getting engaged with a particular person it becomes our to know atleast sumthing bout him/her. n moreover in cases of arranged marriages after engagement mostly the persons r attracted towards each other which generally vanishes off after marriage. its the attaraction which never last long.
love is not attaraction, love is simply caring for sumone . being with him or her in his or her bad times. supporting him or her. not letting ur beloved feel that he/she is alone in the world. in marriages whr such love is thr complications can never come. thr is no place for ego.
this what everyone looks for true love. butits hard to find. still we shudn't stop our search.....kyunki bhagwan ke yahaan der hai andher nahi.....

coolestnapster
03-13-2008, 04:40 PM
thanks sejal and ankuu for ur replies......


but i go with love still as in arrange u know in ur deep heart that now u both r married u have to adjust and understand him/her ...ya few 2-3 years goes nice as u dicover new man/women but after that u can't adjust.....not in case of love marriage ....


well in love marriage u can know before hand the reactions and the shortcomings ur partner has also the strong points.... :smt006

sejal_1912
03-14-2008, 03:55 PM
ya darlings..........

both of u are having strong arguments against me, oops not actually against me but against arranged marraige. right?

when u favour love marriage that is on the bases after listening good stories about falling in love. there are only goody goody talks between two persons when thay r in love. and how could u justify that the feeling towards the person (whom u love) is love and its not an attraction?

and who told u that persons who r married through arranged marriage pattern do not have true and unconditional love between them ha?

when we talk abt the period betn engagement and marriage, its not only the matter of attraction or just the goody goody talks. both of them hav to plan for their future, their families, their kids and their comittments towards eachother, same like as they r in love.


how could u know that the person whom u chosen as ur beloved is perfect for u? in love marraiges also u have to do adjustments and sacrifices for eachother same like as arranged marraiges.


anyways...........

its enough for now but our conversation will remain unstopped..........

bye and take care....dears........

miss u all.....
as i gonna go out of station for a week.
see u later..........
bye.......
love u all.......

coolestnapster
03-14-2008, 04:44 PM
hmm sejal ya topic is endless to debate on


but what is arrange marriage ..starts with a adjustment as when u r going to look for a guy or girl u r suppose to act in good manner ...always u try to impress that fellow......then u r given 2hours to decide ur rest of life...
then u have to hide ur inner or true self as that might not be tolrated there.......just try to look my frnd adjustments r more in arrange marriage..

then what u say


just the like coin two sides

06-11-2008, 11:37 AM
Hmm no idia about it

sveetzara
06-14-2008, 05:05 AM
i think i will prefer both of them.... lolz... just kidding...
I have read all comments of the persons above me... i m engaged and my marriage will be arrange as well as love :smt002 ... it dpends on different situations... sometimes arrange marriage comes to an end after few yrs or months and so does a love marriage... the secret of best married life is to be humble, lenient, soft spoken, flexible and not to be short tempered... in other words if u have "Bardasht" u can adjust urself wid ur spouse... but if u dont have then it doesnt matter whether its a love/arrange marriage..........
As far as "understanding" is concerned i will say that u have enough time btwn engagement and marriage, to understand each other.. but the problem is still here, that if u r in love with someone or already comitted to someone then plz tell ur parents... and parents should also ask their children before making any decision... bcoz its the matter of two lives... even our religious gives us the right to choose our spouse... parents r not always rite... it also depends on fate/luck...
At last i will say that there is no end of this discussion... but a message 4 all girls that plz get married to a guy who loves you... not to that guy whom u love.... bcoz our husbands have right to leave us at anywhere anytime whenever wherever they want to... it happens mostly in pak and indian society... but be careful while choosing ur hubby... look 4 sincere, loving, caring and sharing hubby but not for wealthy.... :smt002 lolz.... if u r rich today, u maybe poor tomorrow... but the wealth of love can never come to an end... if he is sincere then plz respect him...
And u guys plz respect a sincere loving and helping wife plz plz plz never ever let her down... bcoz she is very delicate and fragile... ... but u know she always accepts ur apologize coz she has a ver soft corner 4 u in her heart.. so dont play with her... :smt006 now cheers... if u all act upon my advises, i m sure that u will have a wonderful married life... :smt050 :smt038 so never get worried abt love/arrange marriage... :smt001 the most important thing is " RISHTA NIBHANA"


AM I RITE? like shahrukh says" Changa keya ji?"

sveetzara
07-27-2008, 06:49 AM
hey plz somebody tell me whether i m rite or not?

sunnyajmal
07-27-2008, 04:41 PM
ur completely rite yar!
am agree with u

sveetzara
07-28-2008, 01:26 AM
thanx... but whatever i said is reality...

Klassic
12-21-2009, 02:13 PM
let see whats in destiny

veeru1990
08-18-2011, 01:16 PM
that happens rarely:)

Javeriya
10-07-2011, 03:47 PM
its so great sharing like this ..

Javeriya
10-12-2011, 04:32 PM
hmmm ................................

(` (Ajnabee) )
10-21-2011, 09:24 AM
its better to have both... make love and propose it through proper chanel.. meaning arrange it....;)

sunnyajmal
12-19-2011, 02:53 PM
Boli tu ek love wali, aur dosri arrange wali.........lolzzzz :)

sameerbaba
01-07-2014, 11:43 AM
ek love wali fir ek arrange wali fir ek love wali fir ek arrange wali fir ek love wali fir ek arrange wali fir ek love wali fir ek arrange wali fir ek love wali fir ek arrange wali fir ek love wali fir ek arrange wali fir ek love wali fir ek arrange wali fir ek love wali fir ek arrange wali fir ek love wali fir ek arrange wali fir ek love wali fir ek arrange wali fir ek love wali fir ek arrange wali fir ek love wali fir ek arrange wali fir ek love wali fir ek arrange wali fir ek love wali fir ek arrange wali fir ek love wali fir ek arrange wali

sunnyajmal
01-07-2014, 12:41 PM
waah bhai kya baat hai.......line laga dugi

sameerbaba
01-07-2014, 12:50 PM
dono mil ke karenge

sunnyajmal
01-07-2014, 02:02 PM
Teak hai bhai, surely....

rabia iqbal rabi
01-07-2014, 03:25 PM
15.15 for each other kafi honge

sunnyajmal
01-07-2014, 04:27 PM
I don't think ke 15 se kaam chaliga, but phir bhi try karte hai....

rabia iqbal rabi
01-07-2014, 10:59 PM
go on with your friend it will be better.

sunnyajmal
01-08-2014, 11:39 AM
kya matbal jee?

sameerbaba
01-08-2014, 05:17 PM
Yaar saal me din b 365 hote hai aur ye hume sirf 15 par atka rahe hai
not fair

rabia iqbal rabi
01-08-2014, 05:24 PM
15 ko multiply kar lo ek ko dakka ek ko ander 365 porey ho jaen gey leap year main ek paroci se mang lena

sameerbaba
01-08-2014, 05:40 PM
dhakka dene se 365 ho jata to abhi tak me crore pati ban chuka hota

sunnyajmal
01-09-2014, 11:50 AM
Bhai ye sab ek country se hongi ya phir????

sameerbaba
01-11-2014, 11:10 AM
nai yaar har country se ek do teen so
jyada nai

sunnyajmal
01-15-2014, 11:58 AM
teak hai bhai.......chaleega

Debaj
03-15-2014, 11:58 PM
hmmmm socha nahi kabiii :P

sunnyajmal
03-16-2014, 12:00 AM
Really so?????????????????????????????

Debaj
03-16-2014, 12:01 AM
jo marzi smajien..... :P

sunnyajmal
03-16-2014, 12:03 AM
tum bataogi tab he hum samajh jayengi na.....

Debaj
03-16-2014, 12:18 AM
love n arrange... mix up hna chahiye

sunnyajmal
03-16-2014, 12:27 AM
bilkul nahi.........sirf love

Debaj
03-16-2014, 12:34 AM
kyu??? parents ki marzi bhi tu hni chahiye

sunnyajmal
03-16-2014, 12:45 AM
kuch bhi ho........love marriage

sohaib
03-16-2014, 12:47 AM
dono :) ;)

Debaj
03-16-2014, 12:50 AM
dono :) ;)
Tnx.... ths time tum ne mera sath dia

sohaib
03-16-2014, 12:59 AM
tm ginti hi rehna k kb kb sath dia :P

Debaj
03-16-2014, 01:01 AM
han na... phr tang bhi tu karna hai na

sunnyajmal
03-17-2014, 12:04 AM
so did u accept ke only love marriage he teak hai????

Debaj
03-17-2014, 12:15 AM
nahi 2no mtlb 2no

sunnyajmal
03-17-2014, 12:17 AM
Yar tum ketne ziddi ho......SIRF LOVE!!!!!!!!!!

Debaj
03-17-2014, 12:21 AM
nahi... 2no hni cahahiye

sunnyajmal
03-17-2014, 12:21 AM
dekho na ab es mai bhi zid kar rahi ho.....

Debaj
03-17-2014, 12:23 AM
nahi mai zid nahi krti... ap zid kar rahy hain

sunnyajmal
03-17-2014, 12:24 AM
acha teak hai, mai maan leta ho, tum sahi mai ghalat.....

Debaj
03-17-2014, 12:29 AM
han ji... mai tu wese bhi kabi ghlat nahi hti...

sunnyajmal
03-17-2014, 12:31 AM
ha wu tu mujhe pata hai....

Debaj
03-17-2014, 12:33 AM
phr yaha muje ghlt kon keh raha hai...