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09-13-2012, 06:55 AM
What Is Your Lie-Q

Prophets and philosophers throughout history have
spoken of the potential calamities embedded within lies.
“Relationships are ruined every day because of
lies,” says former IBM executive Cathy Holloway Hill, a life improvement
consultant and author of “Lies, Love & Life,” (www.chollowayhill.com).
“Think about the collapse of our economy starting in 2008 – it didn’t happen
because bankers and other key players were honest and acted with integrity. It
happened because of lies. But the most damaging lies are the ones we tell
“Self lies” cause us to perpetuate a cycle of
failure, she says, and the first step in reversing the pattern is recognizing
Hill has developed three questions – a Lie-Q test – for
people who can’t seem to find success, whether it’s in romance, weight loss,
finances or just general contentment.
• Have you ever told yourself, “I’m too old for
that”? That’s just one of the many common self lies. Others include, “I will
never find true love;” “I’ll never get out of debt;” “I can’t change who I am.”
While the briefest of analyses demonstrates how illogical these lies are –
people find true love, get out of debt and change every day – we persist in
believing them. If you tell yourself you can’t, you won’t make the real effort
required to succeed.
• Do you pretend to be happy when you’re not?
Many of us have pretended to be happy on the job or at home when, in truth,
we’re very unhappy. Sometimes we pretend for the sake of others; sometimes
because we worry about the consequences of expressing our true feelings. And
sometimes, we do it to convince ourselves that we’re happy. Are you happy? If
you’re not sure, or if you’re sure you’re unhappy, Hill recommends getting into
“self-discovery” mode. Take a close look at the hobbies, relationships,
activities and work you enjoy. Determining what they are and working them into
your life starts the process of feeling more content, she says.
• Do you think you can’t find a more satisfying
job? It’s important to find satisfaction and gratification in our work lives,
Hill says. “We spend most of our waking hours on the job so if yours feels
tedious, meaningless and dead end, you will be happier if you’re at least
working on a Plan B,” she says. Since the economic downturn and soaring jobless
rates, the mantra has been, “Be grateful if you have any job at all.” That’s the
wrong attitude. “If you have an exceptional skill and are willing to work hard,
chances are you can find something that makes you happier. If it’s not a paying
job, perhaps some volunteer work on the side,” Hill says. Make a list of your
skills and the things you enjoy. Do any of these match job descriptions in the
real world? You may be surprised to find that your dream job – or something
close to it -- is out there. “Why wouldn’t you go for it?” she asks.